Seeing I have labelled my blog under the heading of a ‘fashion, beauty and lifestyle’ blog, I’m going to use the term ‘lifestyle’ very broadly in this post to discuss some things that someone ought to bring up. In fact, to say that this falls under any category is just an eloquent way of putting it. In actuality, I just need to have a rant on this monotonous Monday afternoon. You are most welcome to take part.
Between having a taxi knock me off the road and ruin my car, then having someone steal my beloved possessions out of the car (both huge altercations in my little world); to the rapidly increasing beggars on every second robot and increasing prices of just about everything. These days I’m finding it a lot more challenging to have a positive outlook on life. This adult thing is no joke. 2016 is also the first year that I am independent financially (JK Mom and Dad still help me. Like, a lot.), well MORE independent financially than I have been before I should say, and so I’m having to adjust my expensive taste and work with a budget. Again – being an adult aint as fun as it looks people. Regardless of all of these factors, the older I get the more appreciative I feel for the life I lead. I’ve had an amazing upbringing, with everything I’ve ever needed, along with parents who have enabled me with everything I need to move forward in life and make a success of myself. Whilst I know I am not in the majority as many, many people have not lived this life, I know I am not alone in my blessings.
Social media is an amazing tool that has opened the door for so many up and coming businesses, it allows us to stay in touch with friends and family all over the world and allows us to build our own brand – because yes, even without trying, you are your own brand. Thanks to social media so many people are able to live out their dreams by doing what they love. Careers such as blogging and social media management would never have been sustainable before the technological revolution that we call social media. Through the different posts on different social media platforms you are able to express yourself and give people a look into your life; you can surprisingly get a pretty good idea as to what someone is all about based on the type of content they share with others. With all of this being said… Do you put a lot of effort into the things you post to social media sites? Do you ever take the time to think about what kind of message you are sending out about yourself? Do you ever think about what message you would like to send out?
I sincerely hope that a fair amount of you said no to the above questions, because I would hate to think that you knowingly post such morbid, negative and narcissistic comments for your share of the world to see. I am all about using your platform to raise awareness as to pressing issues or a topic that you feel strongly about; heck use Facebook to complain about how rude your boss was to you at work today, use Instagram to have a moan about the weather that rained on your freshly cleaned car – do what you need to do on the odd occasion to vent and receive sympathy for your misfortune. It is comforting to know you are not alone on the bad days and it almost works as a type of therapy (I would imagine, I’ve never been one to post personal things of that nature online). What you don’t need to do is make it a continual and common reoccurence. Ever heard that expression, “What you think is what you become”? Well I believe in this day and age that is more true than ever.
By putting out your negative and sometimes warped ideologies you are giving it power over not only your life, but the people who are aimlessly scrolling past it as well. Surely you can understand that your life isn’t really that bad? There is always someone out there who has it worse than you, there is always someone out there who is wishing they had what you had and there is always something positive amongst the negatives. Sheesh that was a lot of Pinterest quotes to handle at once I’ll admit, but they seriously are true. When I think about the bigger picture and the complexity of some people’s situations, I’m seriously stoked with my problems.
The thing that really set me off and inspired me to write this post was a blog I came across the other day. You would swear the purpose of the blog was to mock and ridicule other blogs! Please don’t think for one minute that because you can throw a bunch of big fancy words together to make a sentence, along with sarcasm and cynicism that that makes you better or above someone else. If someone wants to post a photo of their acai breakfast bowl, in fact if they want to dedicate a whole account to that then let them do it. How is it affecting your life to see someone doing sunrise yoga on the beach? Are you physically at harm because the ten thousandth person today told you they are a vegan? Honestly, you do you boo. Like any bully, if you are finding so much fault in the ongoings of other people, you probably have your own insecurities and discrepancies you are shifting focus from. Stop running from being a stereotype, sometimes it is simply inevitable – and it’s not a bad thing! The world is filled with leaders and followers and naturally, there will be more followers. Lets embrace those people who do those things who annoy you but are seriously happy and enjoying life versus you who is just being a little grumpy hater. (Please note the lack of punctuation in that sentence as I’m really annoyed and when I said it in my head I didn’t stop to breathe.)
I do have to admit that some people don’t even post negative things and they literally drive me up the wall regardless. On a daily basis I find myself muttering under my breath, “Can you be that self absorbed and still breathe?” Constant updates of their progress in the gym, giving you a detailed description of their morning routine or how they made the perfect low carb, high protein dinner. Yes, you know the type I’m referring to. But I’m trying to stop myself from the judging looks and eye rolls at the mere thought of these posts, because at least these people have found something they enjoy and are passionate about. It might not be what I personally am into but someone out there might see these posts and truly feel inspired to get up and make the most of their life. Not necessarily by going to the gym or cutting out god’s gift to earth (sugar), but by also wanting to do something that fulfills them. I mean we are all a bit wrapped up in our own lives more than we should be. I would take a vain and self obsessed person who is a positive energy and inspiration to others over someone with sarcasm and bullying tendencies any day.
Like I said, I do totally get it. Life is hectic! It get to us all. But let’s stop using and abusing social media to share negativity and bad vibes, there is enough of that in the world I promise. Let’s make social media a place where we can go to get away from the issues we are confronted with at every turn of the day, a place where posts from your friends and family can better your day and give you a chuckle where possible (Life must have been so dull without the brilliance of meme’s). Because after all if we can’t use these platforms to improve our lives for the better as they were intended, what really is the point?
Let me leave you with this. Next time you hit share on a post, think about what it says about yourself, your brand and who you are that you are wanting to share with everyone.